So often, in fact most times, unless we mean to be mean, we use good faith as a reason, means and justification for doing most things. If you are a nice person, more often than not, "in good faith" becomes a reason to justify most of your actions. The real motive might be selfish in the sense that you might want something from the person whose good faith you want to keep, may be it is expected that you respect the person, may be you cannot afford to upset the person or most often may be you just care too much for the person whose good faith you want to keep.
I think it is important that this whole faith business is where there is no money involved, like in case of a boss-employee scenario, client-vendor scenario or wherever else where the only thing that talks is money.
But sometimes inspite of all the "good faith" things go wrong and you keep blaming yourself for where the ever protecting good faith went! Damn! Well. for one you could be wrong, you might have bungled, you might have not looked at it from the other point of view. May be you were so involved in your own self that you completely missed the point that would have saved the good faith. Or may you just think you know the person, may be you dont and that is why you completely missed the point.
But if all the above is not the reason why things went wrong, then the only explanation can be luck or that you were stupid enough to expect good faith in a place which was possibly never there! Stop blaming yourself and move on!
I think it is important that this whole faith business is where there is no money involved, like in case of a boss-employee scenario, client-vendor scenario or wherever else where the only thing that talks is money.
But sometimes inspite of all the "good faith" things go wrong and you keep blaming yourself for where the ever protecting good faith went! Damn! Well. for one you could be wrong, you might have bungled, you might have not looked at it from the other point of view. May be you were so involved in your own self that you completely missed the point that would have saved the good faith. Or may you just think you know the person, may be you dont and that is why you completely missed the point.
But if all the above is not the reason why things went wrong, then the only explanation can be luck or that you were stupid enough to expect good faith in a place which was possibly never there! Stop blaming yourself and move on!
3 comments:
so true.but wht do u do when yu accept your mistake but ppl r not ready to listen?????????
so move on madam
Whatever stages you described just now might just be some initial reactions. A sort of a blame game. But if someone is indeed a 'nice person' what transpires is a sense of guilt from the past actions. An embarrassment which one cannot share or talk about, a shallowness of sort creeps in. People move on, always, not that they want to, but they have to. As always 'shit happens', so its ok :) As they say we learn !
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